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Eliminate Boredom

June 6, 2012 Leave a comment

I don’t believe boredom is caused by a lack of things to do. There are lots of reasons that one might be bored. The most common one is that you have no idea what to do. Maybe you have ideas of things but you feel you can’t do the things you want to do. Analyzing why you’re bored in the first place and Figure out what you really want to do.

  • Stop doing the same thing over and over again. A nap can rejuvenate you and it can be surprising how much more motivated you can feel after a quick snooze.
  • Breathing in the fresh air outside for just ten minutes can freshen up your mindset. Get your mind off work. Think about your priorities. Get out in nature. Going out for a walk. Doing some exercise can get you into a better frame of mind, as well as the added bonus of keeping you in shape.
  • Walk to the mall and pay attention to the people there; what could they be thinking about? Who could they be talking to? What kind of people are they? . Go to a store and browse, you never know, you might need groceries or new pants or something. But don’t get carried away, spending money isn’t really a hobby.
  • Find an activity that will use the energy you have an abundance of. Get your friends round and play Basket Ball or Futsall.
  • Do something physically or socially active. Social activity (i.e. talking to someone) fulfils one of our basic human needs. Face-to-face contact is, if possible, or  talking over the phone, Twitter or Facebook.
  • Calling a loved one. What better time to call someone to catch up, to tell them you love them, to just say hi … than when you’ve got nothing better to do.
  • Helping people. Volunteer at your local hospital or elderly home. This can give you a great feeling of satisfaction in helping other people.
  • Avoid boring people and situations. Get away from people and situations that bore you.
  • Try adding something new or doing it a different way. Doing something creative. Drawing, playing an instrument,  Cards, Cycling, cooking or photography. Learn something new. Find a photoshop tutorial or download GIMP if you don’t have it and practice your artistic skills.
  • Perhaps what you need is some mental stimulation. Reading a book, novel , manga, magazine, newspaper or Holy Book.
  • Research a topic your interested in online. I will go online, to 9gag or some fun website and browse around until I find a fun picture. Watch youtube  : find funny, prank, magician, How to.. or maybe Conspiracy Video etc.
  • Try to find time to read blogs and write posts. Observe and write down your feelings and thoughts for a week and at the end of it, reflect on them. You could also start a blog online, if you feel that sharing your thoughts with other people could be beneficial.
  • Try to think of alternative ways to do what you want to do, working with what you have available. Play Sudoku. Perhaps not the most intellectual game of all time, or the most exciting …or Browser Game.
  • Maintenance your computer if you have one. Make those files on the computer perfectly organized.
  • Watch some News, Documentary, Sport or Reality Show.
  • Clean your house, or otherwise declutter. If you’ve done that already, clean your house again
  • Listen to Music. Some funky or upbeat tunes might just do the trick. They can make any job much more fun. It takes your boredom away and you will be thinking about different things other than being bored.
  • If you have something that you don’t need, sell it! That way, you can use the money that you earned to buy yourself something that will entertain you.
  • Watch clouds.

Just do it.

Source : http://www.scotthyoung.com | http://zenhabits.net | http://www.wikihow.com

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How to Get Noticed on Twitter and Getting People to Retweet Your Content

June 5, 2012 2 comments

Twitter can be used for many different reasons, including promoting your website, advancing your career and making friends. However, it can be difficult to get noticed on Twitter as the site has over 200 million users. Offer some value to the Twitter community to get noticed. Twitter can be a powerful tool for spreading the word about what you’re doing, and for meeting great, useful new people.

  • Fill out your profile completely.
  • Provide a link to your Web site. If you do not have a writer Web site yet, link to your LinkedIn profile, or your ZoomInfo profile, or your Facebook page.
  • Add “Follow Me on Twitter” to your blog, website and email.
  • Put up a photo. Preferably, a good little photo of you. Or maybe a fun cartoon gravatar of you. But kill off that egg.
  • Get a nice background. People who really operate on Twitter take the time to at least grab a free, unique Twitter background to spice up their site. The really together people have pictures of their products, website logos, and other cool stuff.
  • This is a great tactic to invite people to follow you as they know they will be earning a follower too. So, if you follow me, I’ll follow you too.
  • Understand how other forms of social media work. Coordinating your work in several social-media channels can save you time and help accelerate the level of help you get.
  • You’ll need to mix links to your own blog posts in with other useful information from other sources in your niche.
  • When you see something interesting on a website or in the news, copy and paste the URL and put it on Twitter.
  • Don’t use robots to get followers. Don’t use them. Why? Some of followers are useless — they don’t really want to follow you, and won’t retweet your links.
  • When people start following you, send them each a direct message to thank them.
  • When you have substantially more followers than you do people you follow, it tells people you’re interesting. You don’t have to follow people to get them to follow you. That attracts more followers.
  • Promote other people. Thank people (with a link to their Twitter name) for retweeting your content, RT their links and rave about them…and you will find new friends.
  • Retweeting is a great way to make people follow you. If they know that you often share great info they would be pleased to follow you. If you retweet their posts they would simply love to follow you.
  • Use lists. One great way to stay connected to people without having to follow them is by adding them to your lists. Many people are flattered by getting into lists, so this is another weapon you have besides following.
  • Create tweets relevant to your reason for wanting to get noticed on Twitter. For example, if you want to get a job in computer programming, tweet about programming issues and news.
  • Tell people something that interests them and that they do not already know.
  • Reply to people by answering their questions and asking them questions.
  • Discuss Current Events. People look to Twitter to discover breaking news. Being one of the first people to cover breaking news related to your interest is a great way to get others to retweets your content and expand your reach.
  • Don’t Be Overly Self-Promotional.
  • Think about it: if you have 1,000 followers, and one person retweets your content to his or her 1,000 followers, you have immediately reached more people than your original tweet did.
  • Understand Your Audience. People follow others who they feel are experienced leaders in their interest. They want to learn more, have access to more content, and reach people they might not have otherwise been in contact with. Your followers want content that is credible, intelligent, and valuable.
  • Using the words “Please ReTweet” in your tweets will generate 4x more retweets. So don’t be afraid to encourage others to share your content if they find it valuable, too.
  • Consider the Timing of Your Tweets. If it’s too early in the day, there won’t be as many people on Twitter who will retweet your content. Late in the day and week are the most retweetable time periods.
  • Direct your tweets at Twitter users who are already thought leaders and experts in your interest, as these people are likely to have lots of followers. If they think your content is valuable and retweet it, you will reach many more followers — their followers — and these followers might value the opinion of that thought leader and retweet it, too!
  • Include hashtags in your tweets. If someone isn’t following you but is searching the hashtag, they will still see your tweet and potentially retweet your content.

Source : http://www.makealivingwriting.com | http://www.ehow.com | http://www.shoutmeloud.com | http://blog.hubspot.com

Some nasty habits yourself and others do all the time without realizing it

June 2, 2012 Leave a comment

Social unintelligence and social screw ups we tend to make (this is the 55 ways):

  • Being completely logical in a social situation – We aren’t here to impress anyone with our intelligence.
  • Being concerned about being right or wrong about something – this is ego.
  • Take ages explaining something – The other person wants to get away or change topic.
  • Laugh at their own jokes when nobody else does – This is because they are feeling the pressure of everyone else and because nobody is laughing they try to “keep the vibe going” by laughing and it makes them look stupid.
  • Laugh at unfunny things – laughing for the release of social pressure.
  • Ask obvious questions they know the answer to.
  • Constantly look for things to be funny (listening to every word, looking for every mistake).
  • Use lots of “umms” and “errr”s…’ while talking.
  • Nod too much – giving too much approval.
  • Never nodding or showing any signs of acknowledgment.
  • Say “yeah” or “right” too much when someone is explaining something.
  • Saying please and thank you obsessively (Go to Subway and listen to the customer after the questions, it happens a lot).
  • Don’t say please or thank you at all.
  • Remember excessive details about a person they just met and brings them up regularly – even days or weeks later.
  • Following what others are always doing.
  • Making excuses and rationalizations, defending yourself – who you are does not need to be defended.
  • Qualifying yourself to others.
  • Conforming to what everybody else is doing.
  • Always trying to be different.
  • Criticizing people often.
  • Too much thinking – mental noise.
  • Try and come up with a perfect witty comeback.
  • Taking insults personally.
  • Taking something ambiguous the wrong way.
  • Speaking quietly, mumbling etc.
  • Hardly ever making any eye contact.
  • Making too much eye contact.
  • Letting people disrespect you by not sticking up for your self – know your values and boundaries.
  • Complaining.
  • Whining about things – instead of dealing with them or accepting.
  • Not deciding on something because others wont approve.
  • Never admitting you are wrong.
  • Admitting you are wrong just to keep the peace / apologizing when it’s not your fault.
  • Supplicating to other people.
  • Overcompensating by trying to be better.
  • Not apologizing when you are wrong.
  • Being happy for other peoples misfortunes / failures.
  • Putting your self worth on the responses of others.
  • Taking criticism and praise personally.
  • Letting people physically mess around with you.
  • Always agreeing.
  • Never agreeing.
  • Acting in a way where you’re a victim.
  • Answering stupid questions logically.
  • Answering all questions that people ask you.
  • Doing people favors when they wouldn’t do the same for you.
  • Making up drama, rumors.
  • Comparing yourself with others, if you’re perceived as better or worse – I.e. “I have a car and you don’t so I am better than you”.
  • Not doing anything because of what other people might think – “come dance”, “no, I’m ok” etc.
  • Making sure everything you say is completely correct.
  • Focusing on the negative.
  • Not speaking up when something is not right.
  • Not asking for help.
  • Using lots of self deprecating humor.
  • Button pushing – Doing things purely to get a reaction.

Just choose a couple of things to focus on when interacting with people. First you realize when you do it and then you can work on changing it and brush up your communication skills.

You can read full articles here : http://socyberty.com/psychology/55-ways-you-make-people-dislike-you/

How To Make Friends and To Be Worth Following on Twitter

June 1, 2012 1 comment

  • Before you begin to collect friends on Twitter, decide what your purpose is for being on the site. Are you trying to promote your business, a book, a product? Or are you just there to socialize. This will determine how you will go about looking for friends.
  • Create an interesting an inviting home page that your new friends will enjoy visiting as they get to know you. It should be a statement about who and what you are. An interesting bio can provide that reason. Declare your interests so you have something in common with potential followers.
  • Be sure to include your website address and your photo.
  • People are fascinated by people so the ideal image is almost always a picture of yourself. As well as helping to encourage trust.
  • Use search tool to find people who you correspond with via email who may be on Twitter or search by name or username. Using a keyword from your list.
  • Keep your focus on your purpose for being a Twitter-er and only follow people who fit the criteria.
  • Invites them to your website and/or ask a question to invite conversation.
  • Keep your Twitters interesting and relevant to yours friends. And like you do with your real friends, show the people you invite into your home that you care and are interested in what is important to them. They will do the same.
  • Use twitter buttons on your websites and blog posts.
  • Link to your Twitter feed on your other social profiles.
  • Follow everyone who follows you.
  • Don’t be afraid to un-follow someone who is not active.
  • Re-tweeted can be very successful. If you see a good tweet, do a “retweet” so your followers can get the benefit of the information that is being shared.
  • Be Informative. Post links helpful articles or leave bits of advice and information.
  • Be friendly but not bothersome.
  • Don’t be a “hit and run” tweeter! In other words, don’t just log into Twitter to tell people what you are doing or link to your post and then leave.
  • Respond to tweets, ask questions, answer questions.
  • If you tweet the question, Include hash tags in your posts #example . your profile will be seen by any number of users searching for example, while simultaneously encouraging them to interact with you as they try answer your question.
  • Twitter is a conversation, not a monologue, and the more you participate, the more you will get out of it, and the faster your community will grow.
  • It’s okay to promote your own work, as long as it’s not all self-promotion, all the time.
  • If all you do is promote yourself, people will tire of you.
  • No one likes to feel that they are getting spammed. And they are more likely to read it if you make it sound like it will be interesting or helpful.
  • If you find yourself going back and forth in conversation with one person, it’s time to take the conversation to Direct Messages.
  • Remember your friend’s time is valuable too.
  • Be patient, it takes time to develop a good following.

Source : http://www.ehow.com | http://www.twitip.com | http://ariherzog.com

What do you do if you love someone but she doesn’t care about you in the same way?

May 31, 2012 Leave a comment

Various Answer :

  • Sweetie, if she does not care why should you? Don’t keep fighting for someone who will not fight for you in return. Life is too short and there is someone out there that will be just as interested in you as you are in her. Take that advise from someone who knows.
  • Well, I definitely and absolutely agree with the answer above me. If she doesn’t show any signs at all of even caring about you at all even in the future, just try and forget about her. No matter how much it hurts to even consider driving her out of your memory. You have only one life to live, and you shouldn’t spend all your time dwelling over someone who doesn’t care about you. There’s someone out there that loves you just as much as you love her, just don’t loose hope. She’s one girl, there are plenty in the world.
  • Look, I’m a girl and the same situation happened to me, it was reverse, because he said he loved me, but I didn’t nor do I feel that way for him. So, to tell u the truth there isn’t really a way for u get back with her in the way you want. My advice is to avoid her when she’s flirting with a guy or closely talking to a guy, because you are going to cause yourself pain. Maybe, the feeling for her will enviably form into a different form of love the way she has it for you.
  • I am a girl, and have been told those three terrifying words more than once. If someone doesn’t love you, the smart and rational thing to do. But love isn’t smart OR rational. If you stay patient, and get closer to this special person and maybe, things might change. You may see the real them, and decide that they aren’t worth the time. Or they might see the real you, and realize that you are more special to them than they previously thought. You can never give up hope!! Keep going. Pursue everything.
  • I think you should carry on trying for them because you only live once and at the end of the day if you really have bad feeling for them then you shouldn’t have to forget about them till you know if they definitely don’t like you back.
  • TRUST, I’m in the same boat at the moment and its killing me that I can’t tell the person how I feel but keep trying till you know for sure. don’t give up but don’t look desperate at the same time.
  • if you loved someone and she does not feel the same way maybe she is not ready for a relationship i wouldn’t give up but i also wouldn’t make any advances towards the person. if he knows that you are interested and knows that you will always be around, then make yourself scarce and maybe he will get the idea you don’t care anymore and if he cares at all that person will come to you if it was meant to be. men don’t like to be ignored or snubbed, they like the attention, so just sit back and see if he comes to you and if hr don’t then move on there’s plenty of fish in the ocean
  • I’m a girl and I had to change my mind about guys before. If you keep on trying I’m sure she will fall for you in the end.
  • Give up because if she don’t care bout you then why waste your time in life there are people who you can sometimes never have is sucks to her buts its the truth!
  • I’m a girl myself and I have been told that many times but if you tell her or him and you know they truly love you back then i just want to say good luck with your love I have been called A misses clause, I love you, baby girl, hot stuff and I’m just 12 but I think you should say it at least once.
  • Just make sure that you have told her to her face that you really like her and if you definitely no she doesn’t like you move on there’s plenty more fish in the sea.
  • Tell her but if u don’t want to do that hold on 2 her make her feel like shes really special.
  • I agree with the first answer, if she doesn’t love you there is nothing you can do. I know it hurts to imagine yourself forgetting about her, but how can you honestly be happy with someone who cant return your love.
  • This is for face and looks the other way. Give a girl a compliment and she says “whatever”. Am I really going to tell her I love her? I’ am afraid she might kill me.
  • A girl would just do her best to be polite in saying that she can’t return the affection, and if she does like you she will possibly have some affection for you. Ask her what she thinks of you but don’t just dump her without talking to her because that is just rude anymore and we were 3 days! I was in the town in a shop I checked my Texts and there it was! I nearly had a break down.
  • love is like a plant. love can grow and Love needs time to grow

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